@rixx That makes me think that the groups of people who need to do the most emotional labour are people with anxiety or other mental health problems they have to mask, as well as any minority just because they are more likely to have to "brace themselves" against the emotional effects of being treated unfairy.
@Anke Sounds plausible, I guess? But it's not an automatic thing – I know people who fit those groups who still don't see household chores as emotionally draining, and it's important to acknoledge this (for reasons the interview went into much better than I could).
@rixx I did not mean household chores, but what's mentioned as emotional labour in the interview: masking your real feelings and outwardly showing different feelings. Hochschild keeps saying that if something causes you anxiety that you need to manage, that makes it emotional labour.
for example, women are deemed more "emotional" and if they control and manage their emotions a lot, which they do just as anybody else, they are still seen as "emotional" and so that emo-management is not acknowledged, really.
also marginalized people have to manage their emotions more in normative settings, thats why you feel you can't "just be yourself" in those settings.
@distel @Anke Definitely, there's no question of that (I misunderstood Anke at first). For me it was just helpful to hear some explanation for my feeling that "chores are emotional labor, and men don't do emotional labor, but they should" is a sentiment that's pretty common lately and always struck me as somewhat wrong (and yet, somewhat right).
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